Does Your Husband Ignore Your Needs?
It’s all too common these days, ask most unhappily married women, “Does your husband ignore your needs?” And the answer will most likely be, “Yes!”
It probably even goes deeper than that and they feel that they are ignored completely.
Marriage is an equal partnership, or is supposed to be. It’s built on mutual love and respect. A life being shared together.
When one spouse is being excluded then the partnership is no longer working. The relationship gets out of balance and it leads to frustration and resentment. Being taken for granted is the usual description, but it’s not the most realistic one. It’s a lonely and sad place to be with feelings of rejection and not being good enough.
So, if you are tired of enduring a relationship with a man who ignores you, and you want to avoid the breakup or divorce, then now is the time to take stock of your situation and make some changes. If you want to rekindle the love and respect within your marriage and make it work because you still love your husband then you might find it a bit challenging. It can be done but, depending on your husband’s disposition and commitment, it make take a while. But rest assured, the power lies with you because now is the time you get to make all the choices… if you’re prepared to.
This is going to sound strange, particularly as your husband is ignoring you, but communication is the key here. You’re going to have to find a quiet uninterrupted time together and gently, without any accusations, tell him that you are feeling ignored and neglected.
What happens next will depend on his reactions, he may take a defensive stance and make pursuing the issue any further a complete waste of time. It would just turn into an argument with you ending up feeling more hurt and rejected than you already do. On the other hand, he may genuinely be surprised by what you’ve just revealed. It’s quite possible that he hadn’t realized he’d been taking you so much for granted. Life can become very routine at times. If this is the case, then be calm and reassuring when you discuss what you can both do together to get things right again.
Even so, it’s still likely that you may have a job on your hands convincing your husband why you feel this way. He is just as likely to tell you that you don’t have enough enough to do in your life as he is to really understand that his interests have completely taken over and relegated you to the sidelines.
Don’t be tempted to carry on the discussion to try and convince him to accept your point of view, it’s unlikely this will succeed and is more likely to end in a fight. But, don’t give up entirely, you’ll just have to resort to changing things on your own. Besides, it’s not that hard to do.
Win win situations are always the best option to choose and this is one of them.
Relationships are a lesson in compromise. Whenever we enter into a new relationship, especially if it ends up a long term one, we change. We don’t just change once, but continually throughout the life of the relationship. Our habits, aspirations, desires, needs and feelings end up different to those we had before we got together with this new person. Some things will survive the transition, but we will lose a lot and gain a lot of other things in their place...
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